Thursday, March 10, 2011

Attract a woman to seduce with your body language

Most authors speak of "body language" are wrong. Committed a fundamental error and "beginners" which means that, although the method works a bit (not completely), it's like the equivalent of a child who reads one letter, and little by little ... you know to decode the sounds of letters but not even really understand what you are reading. It is a common mistake.

They tell you when someone crosses their arms is because it is closed to the media, or make up that when someone speaks fast is because he is lying, and although sometimes it is true, is a poor way to understand non-verbal communication and language body.

It is more or less the same mistake that they spend their time trying to find what to say to start a conversation with a woman, not realizing that the interaction with anyone starts long before you open your mouth.

We only pay attention to a moment and forget that this is a process in time and over time ...

They forget that those elements, like words, are part of a whole, and should be understood as such. If not, it would be like trying to understand the words of a separate text ... not understand what the text means to us.

The thing is to understand non-verbal communication requires that you use a mode of thinking that long you do not use (since you learned the language and start filtering your reality through this) ...

For example, think about what it means to have a "good position." Many people, when you think about "good posture" think about being with your back straight as a board, which is a very forced and unnatural for the back. Worse, they see the "good posture" as a static ... as if human beings did not need to keep moving ...

Think about it, nothing is more fundamental and constant change ... and yet our language and the way you use it to filter the reality, you're limiting your perception of a world "static" things and institutions and situations "Nothing can move."

This happens to many people and is what I call "the trap of language", which is a way of referring to how some people confuse what they say to themselves and what they mean with "reality."

Now, in the case of seduction, think about how this applies to how you interpret whether or not he likes you and your way of using non-verbal language to communicate ...

Think, if you believe the nonsense about "idly by" = "closed to the media, probably make the same mistake in seduction.

If she turns you do not think she likes you ... if you think she likes smiles ... he says he likes men of this or that type and there are going to try to look like them.

Or even more typical: he says no he likes you or something and try to convince by saying how much you love and you love and you love ... or wait for the "ideal time" to kiss ...

All these errors stem from the same fundamental error, an error in your way of seeing the world, so to speak.